Who’s in Control of Your Emotions?

who's in control of your emotions

Have you ever blamed someone for hurting your feelings?

Most likely… Right?

But have you ever wondered, how you learned to allow others, to affect your emotions?

Sometimes we forget to pause and think; instead… we respond to the situations on autopilot.

When your emotions have an impact, it’s hard to take charge and not let emotions destroy you.

Are you guilty of living in the “victim” mode?

Identifying False Beliefs

First, you need to accept that you have bought into the wrong set of beliefs and views that are no longer benefiting you…

Realizing that you are in charge is one of the freeing feeling you can possess.

You are in control, and you are … the gatekeeper to your emotions.

You can let hurtful words of others hit you like a brick and injure you, or you can take the block out of their hands and use it – to build the life you love...

What do I mean by that?

You Get to Interpret the message…

Words on its own are just that! Words…

They can’t hurt you; they need your assistance…

I order to get triggered by the words you must attach mining to the message you get.

When your ego gets hurt, pay close attention…

Pay close attention to the meaning and significance you are attaching to the message.

What emotions are getting triggered and confused?

Remember, you get to interpret the words of others!

You Get to Choose

Our past will always try to control how we respond to situations today. Old trauma and pain, we carry over the years, have a lot to do with the meaning we attach to the messages today.

How crazy is that!

Holding on to old disappointments and misfortunes will only bring alike.

You are the only one who can choose to identify the triggers and let old trauma and guilt fall away.

Determine how you are going to let others influence your emotions.

End the blame game and initiate the opportunity to start accepting responsibility for your choices…

Forgive them as they didn’t know how they got swayed by the misleading beliefs they acquired… Forgive and let go!

You get to choose how to act and how to react in any given situation.

Choose wisely!



Irina Kirilyuk


P.S. you are in control of your emotions...  🙂


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The Power of Focus… It Can Destroy or Empower Your Life

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You Get in Life What You Focus On

We all desire a happy and meaningful life… that’s just our nature.

What we focus our attention and thoughts on, all day long, is what will determine our outcome in life.

Pay close attention to the feelings and thought you are thinking in your day.

What are you telling to yourself?

Are they thoughts of encouragement and upliftment or thoughts of hate, doubt, fear, and regret?

Buy focusing and dwelling on regrets, pitty, and guilt.. your life becomes a heavy burden that drains your energy down.

you get in life what you focus on

Stop the Vicious Cycle and Let Yourself Free!

Living your life in fear and regret is not what we came here to do.

We can easily change the state of mind and redirect our focus in the direction we want to go, by laser focusing all our attention on the desired outcome and solutions.

Start looking at your life through the lens of hope and possibilities, to stop the vicious cycle of your current patterns.

Fear, doubt and regrets will never get you to the life you dream of.

It All Starts With a Choice

I believe this is the most overlooked piece of the puzzle in a peaceful and fulfilled life

You have a choice…

To take action or not to make a move.
To forgive or to be bitter.
To insult or to be kind.

It’s at those subtle moments you presented with an opportunity to make a choice.

You can’t choose for others, but you can for yourself.

Today, choose to direct your focus into the direction you want to go!



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How To Change My Life for The Better?

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Just like nature is constantly changing our lives require change, howeverso many people find this idea frightening.

We are creatures of habit, but some find it very difficult to get used to change that comes our way. Life reminds me of an old, comfortable pair of shoes.

When it’s time to make any changes we realize that changing could cause us discomfort for a short while until we “break them in”. 

In this article, you will find some tips and ideas to help you change your life for the better despite the obstacles on the way.



Just look at nature and it should give you clues to the ways change might be effortless. The beautifully colored autumn leaves tend not to hang on to the thee for dear life.

No, they yield into the change with ease and float gently off of the tree.

Clear your mind from unhealthy habits and thoughts

Are there things in your life that should be gently eased from out of your life? Maybe there are unhealthy relationships, habits or thought that must be removed.  Don’t be afraid to do a little spring cleaning in your own life. 

Every gardener knows that unless all roots removed, we truly aren’t removing the problem. What are you holding on to that needs your attention right now?

Maintain clean and Weeds – Free mind

The weeds in our mind, of course, are negative thoughts that like to creep in and keep us from achieving the type of life we are striving for.

Even though when harvest time is ready, the gardener does not stop weeding the garden. Right? Then why you let your mind drown in the weeds of negativity and regrets? Your mind needs constant attention in order to flourish and feel alive.

Change your thinking – Change your life

How can we change the inner attitudes of our mind?

By changing the way we think. We must put fear and negativity behind us. The fear is so crippling to so many of us. We fear things that never happened to us and probably never will. Just think about this for a moment, it’s almost absurd!

If you refuse to understand this and live in constant fear, you will live a fearful life! Period.

To free yourself of fear and anxiety is to realize that fear is not real, it’s only a thought, you just happened to be so attached to, at this particular moment. 

Learn how to manage the fear 

be fear free

As soon as you realize that you are in control, it’s a lot easier to manage the fear and anxiety. Learn and practice how to observe the fear and just let it flow away in the air, just like the autumn leaves leaving the trees.

  • Observe your fear without attaching to it or judging it
  • See it for what it is – just a thought
  • Now bring your attention fully into the now moment
  • Observe the present moment – remind yourself that you just have a bad habit of worrying but you are learning to change that
  • Create new habitschange your state of mind by listening to positive inspirational material, exercise, cook, dance, sing, play instrument, etc. Just do whatever brings you joy, to break the pattern.

Explore and try New things

If you stuck and not sure how to create a new habit – explore. This is your time to find out what you love! Start compiling a list of all the things that you thought might be interesting for you to learn about or something you always wanted to try.   

Just let your creative mind flow, experiment and try new things. The change doesn’t have to be always painful,  you just have to utilize the tools. Old believes and outdated patterns (that no longer serve you), need to be replaced with a new practical habit or you will never leave the worry habit alone.  

Choose this today to be the starting point for you to get rid of the fear gradually and forever. Remember just like any bad habit, it takes time to unlearn it. Be patient with yourself and kind.

Don’t get frustrated, if you take yourself out of fear, and a few moments later get sucked back into the “dark” again. Keep practicing your new habits and you will be amazed at how quickly you will regain your power back.  

Promise yourself and commit to being in control, by paying attention to your feelings at all times. 

Just like autumn leaves fall to make way for a new life, change is inevitable for us. Then why fight it? Don’t be afraid of change, learn how to flow with life!


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